pet peeve

sorry if i offend anyone, but this is something that drives me insane!

i hate hate hate when people get engaged and the first thing the girl does is get the token "ring" picture. you know. the stupid shot of the hand with the engagement ring. i hate when girls get engaged and the first thing out of their friends mouths is: let me see your ring. seriously. its lame. its a ring. yes its a symbol, but when you show it off and friends ask to see it, they could care less about the true meaning or symbolism of the ring. i hate the 10 bazillion shots of hands on facebook of peoples rings. seriously.

i remember when i was really young, my grandma lost her wedding ring in the couch. (my grandpa had passed away several years earlier) so she asked me to look for her ring. when i found it, i gave it to her.. i remember the ring so clearly. it was a simple silver band. no, ladies, it wasn't a huge diamond, but it was the reason behind the ring that was so important to her. not the ring itself.

why do girls feel they deserve a huge ring. does it help them feel secure? does it mean your S.O. loves you more? what is it about this ring? why does it deserve a picture? why don't we take pictures of other rings and put them on facebook? is this the ultimate proof that you're engaged? i just don't get it. and don't even start with me on the price of these.

part of the problem is, the materialism involved in the ring. people get so caught up in how they feel about the ring, how it looks, if its perfect, if so and so picked out a nice one,.... this tarnishes the true symbol and meaning behind the ring. we lose the meaning of the ring to the shine and glitter of the ring.

also, in other countries, they just skip the whole engagement ring process. how do they manage to survive this ringless time. i can only imagine the following conversation bewtwen a newly engaged girl(NEG) and her friends.(F)

NEG : hey! im getting married! so and so asked me to marry him!
F: show me the ring!
NEG: well...i dont have one..
F: youre such a liar.. youre not getting married.
NEG: no its for real... im seriousy
F: whatever



if i ever get married, you wont be invited. im not gonna show you the stupid ring. just believe me when i tell you.